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Angie Shirk's avatar

So very well articulated. I think it goes without saying that many of us will come into contact with some kind of hurt from within the church in some capacity. I have had many things I've had to untangle from teachings in my childhood and young adult years. But being ready to deal with it slowly, in the way untangling requires, with humility and forgiveness goes such a long way in helping our faith not crumble. Especially in my experience.

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Baylie's avatar

Hey Alex! I really enjoyed reading this piece - you have a lot of great points. Just want to bring another perspective alongside of what you shared.

I wholeheartedly believe the experience of those whose growth in their walk with Christ could best be described as "detangling." Learning and growing, and shifting our beliefs to become more in line with the nature and character and word of God is part of life in Christ! At the same time, there are many - myself included - whose journey of faith would best be described as blowing up the whole house and starting fresh. I kind of feel like I went through a deconstruction before that was really even a term, the deconstruction TikTok and Instagram phenomenon was certainly not around. In order to fully follow Jesus, and embrace his word in every part of my life, "detangling" would've been far too gentle. It required me allowing everything to be burned up and examining everything I have been taught to believe. Very long story short, I was raised in a religious cult (same as Jinger in many ways) but had a radical encounter with Jesus at age 17. This set me on a journey of leaving everything I'd known to follow Jesus. It was because the Bible had been used and abused and misinterpreted so severely that I had to allow the fire of God to consume everything and allow his Spirit to reveal the truth. For me, going from dead religion to a living relationship with Jesus meant that I could trust him in this process, and that I could let go of even the need to be right or understand everything. Everything exploded in my internal and external world, and it was terrifying. But through it all Jesus was so faithful to Shepherd me through that dark night of the soul. cut to where I am now - I'm in my 30s and serving in ministry at my local church, I love Jesus with everything I have, I hold to the scriptures as the infallible word of God, a historical view of marriage and sexuality, ect. I say all of this to say, the result of blowing up my life was not apostasy, but fidelity to Jesus and his truth. But ironically, there are those from the world I left well over a decade ago who would say that I am not even a true believer because so many of my beliefs have changed. For lots of people, a simple detangling along the normal lines of sanctification and growth will be enough. But there will be people who will have to go through a deconstruction/demolition. it does seem like the word deconstruction has grown to often (not always!) be synonymous with abandoning orthodoxy, but for me personally, the term "detangling" isn't extreme enough for what my experience has been. Maybe we need a new word? 😉 Lol

Anyways, I love this conversation and your heart to see people come to Jesus as the only source of truth and healing! Blessings to you and Emily!

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